Reflective Listening


Reflective Listening: What It Is and How It Can Help Improve Your Relationships

Communication is a key component of any relationship, and reflective listening is a powerful tool that can help improve communication and strengthen relationships. In this blogpost, we will explore what reflective listening is, how it works, and how it can benefit you and your relationships.

What is Reflective Listening?

Reflective listening is a communication technique that involves actively listening to someone and then reflecting back what you heard. Reflective listening is based on the idea that effective communication involves both sending and receiving messages. By actively listening and reflecting back what you heard, you can clarify any misunderstandings and ensure that both parties are on the same page.

How Does Reflective Listening Work?

Reflective listening involves several steps:

  1. Pay attention: Give the speaker your full attention and focus on what they are saying.
  2. Reflect back: Repeat or rephrase what the speaker said to show that you are listening and to ensure that you understood correctly.
  3. Clarify: Ask questions to clarify any misunderstandings or to get more information.
  4. Empathize: Show empathy and understanding by acknowledging the speaker's feelings and emotions.
  5. Respond: Respond with your own thoughts or feelings, using "I" statements to express how you feel.

Benefits of Reflective Listening

Reflective listening has been shown to improve communication and relationships in various settings, including romantic relationships, parent-child relationships, and workplace relationships. According to a study published in the Journal of Marriage and Family Therapy, reflective listening can lead to a significant improvement in relationship satisfaction and a reduction in communication problems. Another study published in the Journal of Family Psychology found that reflective listening can increase feelings of closeness and understanding in romantic relationships.

How No Fear Counselling Can Help with Reflective Listening

At No Fear Counselling, we can help you improve your communication skills through reflective listening techniques. Our licensed therapists can teach you how to actively listen, reflect back, and empathize with others, leading to more meaningful and fulfilling relationships. Whether you're struggling with communication in your personal or professional life, we can help you develop the skills you need to communicate effectively.


Reflective listening is a powerful communication tool that can help improve your relationships and increase feelings of closeness and understanding. Reflective listening involves actively listening, reflecting back what you heard, clarifying any misunderstandings, empathizing with the speaker, and responding with your own thoughts or feelings.

If you're interested in learning more about reflective listening and how it can help improve your relationships, schedule a consultation with our licensed therapists at No Fear Counselling today. Visit our contact page at or call us at (778) 288-8361. Take the first step towards better communication and more meaningful relationships!

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